“Remember at the end of the day, reflect on all good things you’ve done, because those are successes that are not easily won. You fought hard for them.”
25 year old Leah is the primary caregiver supporting her grandmother, who is suffering from mixed dementia. On good days Leah and her grandmother go to the park after breakfast and watch children play, but not everyday is good… Some days when Leah is full of resentment due to her role she writes a letter to her grandmother, talking about her day or how she feels, and it connects her to her grandmother.
During caregiving it is easy to lose sense of who the person you are caring for really is and Leah uses the analogy of a jigsaw puzzle to help gain perspective on things. The whole person is a combination of the ugly and muddy pieces, as well as the flowery, sunny ones and one just needs to step back and remember, “That this is just a bad moment and you cannot let the bad moments outweigh the good ones.” Similarly you cannot look at the muddy pieces and forget the flowery ones all of which make the person who they are.
If you can identify with this story, please share it with others who care for someone. The feeling of understanding, not being alone and access to support is what keeps caregivers going.
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