Being There: Ryan’s Story

“He is not angry…It would be really easy to be bitter…but he is not… a great life lesson”

A close knit family, who always put family first, was devastated when Ryan’s father suffered a brain hemorrhage at the age of 59. Their “work hard, family first” mindset ensured that all the family members took turns being beside him, round the clock, for the first 6 months invisibly taking a toll. All this while also balancing their work and personal lives, however – at one point, when Ryan accompanied his father to speech therapy, he realized that this was not enough.  At first, it was hard to accept that he needed help to care for a loved one but soon the pressure was too much for him and eventually he looked for a private and professional careworker to support them. Seeing his father show no bitterness about his situation taught him to enjoy life. As a male, acknowledging our emotions and asking for help are signs of strength, not weakness which allowed him to cope better and feel normal again.

If you can identify with this story, please share it with others who care for someone. The feeling of understanding, not being alone and access to support is what keeps caregivers going.

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