“You can’t do everything..you really can’t and its not yours to do..it takes a village to caretake and so allow yourself to receive the love from other people willing to support you on your journey”
When Shamira visited her parents she realized the tough time her mother was having taking care of her father and Shamira soon found herself in a caregiving role – which she took on for nearly twenty years. Eventually she realized that she needed assistance to keep up with her mother’s ongoing needs and the focus shifted to what can often be the hardest… letting go.
As hard as it was to make the decision, she realized she needed to put her parents in a full time assisted living facility. With all the cultural stigma attached to it and the feeling of abandoning them, Shamira went through an emotionally hard time. But looking back, with the caregiving assistance being taken care, of she’s had the opportunity to really get to know her mother. Earlier she felt deprived and thought it was for another but today she sees that it is for her too.
Her mother is an introvert who doesn’t converse or share much so they do some activities together and her mother is happy knowing that Shamira is around. Shamira shares the emotional conflicts, difficulties and acceptance that comes with taking this step and the importance of caregiving not just as a role, but as a continuous journey.
If you can identify with this story, please share it with others who care for someone. The feeling of understanding, not being alone and access to support is what keeps caregivers going.
Produced By North of Now Films – https://www.northofnow.ca/
Produced with the participation of TELUS Fund – http://www.telusfund.ca