“That infamous caregiver guilt… we all feel it sometimes… the little voice in your head that’s always telling you you’re not doing it right, you’re not good enough, or when you have to enforce something your parent doesn’t want… or it could be your parent telling you things that make you feel guilty”
Sofia Amirpoor, a geriatric social worker and a family caregiver talks about family caregiver guilt. This is a very natural feeling experienced, irrespective of whether the family caregivers have or have not done something to cause it. This guilt causes caregivers to devote more time and effort towards their loved ones. While this may seem like a beneficial thing from the patient’s point of view, it is actually detrimental for both, the caregiver and the patient. Patients are actually better taken care of when the caregiver is in a healthy state of mind. This video explains the types of caregiver guilt and ways to overcome it.
Caregiver guilt (or just feeling bad!) can come from within or loved ones or others disturbing one’s peace of mind and eventually, the caregiving process. It is important to take notice of it’s cause and the potential solution to it and even when the guilt IS caused due to a specific action, it is important tonot dwell upon it for too long.
“No matter where it comes from, it just wrecks havoc on your emotions…For many of you, this voice is persistent, it never backs off”
The “voice” is the range of statements that contribute to the guilt. The guilt of having done something or not having done keeps nagging us at all times, whether we are working harder to improve the patient’s condition or even dreaming of taking some time for ourselves, not letting us experience the rewarding aspects of caregiving or anything else.
“If you get used to noticing it, then you can face it and you can tell it, ‘Stop it! You’re wrong. Get out of here, you’re just a voice in my head and just because you’re there, doesn’t mean you’re right’.”
She talks about how confronting emotions makes it easier to accept and resolve them – One should put his/her foot down and shift from focusing on the one negative to the large number of positive things one has done for their patient. There is a good exercise to do just that in the video!
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Source: Sofia Amirpoor
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