“I am able to live a healthy and a full life, so if I can help her have a little bit of that….being able to meet with her own friends…..any little thing we can do is precious“
Sudeshna took time off between jobs to visit her parents in Kolkata. Little did she know she would not be returning to Canada and would have to sacrifice her career and friends. While visiting her parents, one thing led to another and she found herself in the primary caregiving role for her parents. Within a year, after her father passed away, her mother needed a full time caregiver. Being the only child Sudeshna took up the role knowing that her mother would do the same for her. She created a life for herself in Kolkata but being a full time caregiver and maintaining a career can be demanding.
She found that a lot of agencies have untrained, unqualified nurses who do not know how to use simple machines. So Sudeshna decided to educate herself to ensure that the nurses performed their tasks correctly. She also feels that generally an aged patient receives less concern and attention than a younger patient would receive from the medical fraternity. She tried to convince some of those doctors that her parents were the only family she had, so their health was important to her. She has tried to influence those she feels have this attitude to change their mindset and convince them that every life is precious no matter the age.
“Bringing about that equity, bringing about the mindset or attitude that every life is valuable, be it young be it old, as human beings we shouldn’t be the ones deciding who should be given full medical treatment and who should not be given much treatment”
Sudeshna continues to find balance by giving importance to both her and her mother’s priorities where she is grateful for whatever they are able to do together
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