Being There: Tara’s Story

“Being physically and emotionally isolated…I was too broken to leave and too broken to live… I was living in hell with him, different, But the same…”

A social worker since 2002, Tara is now focusing on trying to understand how to live with an ex-serviceman who has PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Her husband, Charles, had been to various conflict zones and was deeply impacted by what he saw and part of the trauma was also getting out of the military since it is so regimented and well-structured.

Her husband left the military with a back injury back in 2008 and was diagnosed with PTSD in 2010. Though they initially met very romantically, now he lost his temper with her constantly, she would blame herself for it, not knowing what really caused it.  After his diagnosis, she thought things would improve but they didn’t. In dealing with his behavior caused by PTSD, she felt “isolated and broken” and was eventually diagnosed with PTSD herself. After years of doing social work it was hard to accept that now she needed help.

As his story became hers the two of them have been facing the challenges together and trying to heal themselves. Charles realizes now that he has ended up causing secondary trauma to his kids and wife which needs to be addressed. Eventually, there are more good days than bad and the healing process is a togetherness activity, supporting each other.

If you can identify with this story, please share it with others who care for someone. The feeling of understanding, not being alone and access to support is what keeps caregivers going.

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